Communication skills are one of the most overlooked skills in modern day society.

There is always a SENDER and a RECEIVER, the second we forget to take this into account,

we are basically throwing ideas out there in the hopes that they will land.

The four pillars of communication are:

  1. Assertiveness

You need to be assertive in order to communicate anything meaningfully. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Don’t say it mean.

  1. Clarity

This is the way you send your message. Think of clarity as the vessel that transports your idea from your mind to the mind of someone else. If you are not clear, then your message will be distorted or misinterpreted by the receiver. This almost always ends in confrontation or arguments.

  1. Listening

People want to know that they are being heard, so in any good communication, it is vitally important that you develop good listening skills. People will only be open to understanding your message if you are open to understanding theirs.

  1. Have empathy

Emotion researchers generally define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions, coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling.

Send your message with more empathy. Be aware that your words have power, therefore you have to anticipate how the other person will receive them. The key is to consider the feelings of the other person and if they respond in a way that you did not expect, don’t be offended, instead look for a better way to communicate your intention clearly, so that the response matches your intention.

 “The success of YOUR conversation

 Comes from the LISTENER’S response”

Speak in such a way that others would like to listen, listen in such a way that others would like to speak.

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